Tuesday, June 05, 2007
a juicy contemplation
Another gem from Gunilla Norris in her book, "Being Home." (On a side note, I enjoy her introductions and prefaces much more than the actual prose in her books... but this is my personal taste. -Ellie)Labels: Quotable
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Tuesday, May 22, 2007
and even more on gardening
I'll have all of you know that my thumb is anything but green. I appreciate beautiful gardens and I long to have one myself but I don't know a thing about anything. I don't know about what plants go where or how deep or when to water, fertilize, etc. It's so overwhelming to me that I can look at my little plot of a yard (which is mostly concrete and pea gravel) and feel quite depressed that it's never going to have the glorious foliage adorning it that I'd like. Despite this, I'm determined to do SOMETHING. Last week my husband and I started ripping out some ugly plants and weeds out of our front yard and extended the border or the garden area but pulling up the grass. It felt so darn rewarding when we were finished to see the beautiful brown dirt in between nicely spaced plants (it really was quite overgrown and poorly designed to begin with). And then I picked up a neat little book I've been reading that makes me feel just a wee bit better about NOT being out there weeding and planting and doing what I want in my heart to do. I felt guilty because I feel like a garden is so much WORK. Of couse I want fresh tomatoes and basil and raspberries and lovely flowers bordering our walkway. Who doesn't?! But I get a sinking feeling whenever I think of how much work it involves to maintain a garden. This passage struck me:Labels: Quotable, Reflections
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Saturday, April 21, 2007
Anxiety. Haste. Stress.
All too often I'm reminded of how immature my faith truly is. What are the symptoms of a lack of faith or an immature faith? Anxiety, haste and stress. Ever feel those things? As mothers and as human beings it is natural to experience these sentiments. There is nothing wrong with that. What is wrong is when we submit to those feelings and allow them to overcome us and consume our thoughts. My husband was recently diagnosed with a chronic disease. Chances are pretty good that he is going to be medically boarded out of the Navy in six months. He is one who had his whole career in front of him if he wanted... making rank at impressive speed, his command's "golden boy." There was nothing he couldn't accomplish. And now the military is basically going to say "You're not any good to us anymore since we can't deploy you." So that life is coming to a crashing halt. Don't bother with comments of condolences or anything. We are both thankful for God's will. Labels: Quotable, Reflections
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Thursday, March 01, 2007
We are all called to be saints.
Someone was recently very generous and gave me "The Gift of Faith" by Fr. Tadeusz Dajczer, which is taking me on an extraordinary spiritual journey, so far. I wanted to share something that really resonated with me from this book. How can we be joyful about the sorrows and trials in our lives? By seeing them as gifts. It's that simple, and that difficult. Sainthood isn't a thing of legends and lofty people of the past. We are all called to be saints, to live simple lives of holiness.For lips, which I was feeding too much, for the dirty noses of the children, for the guarded sheep, I thank you!
Thank you my God, for the prosecutor and the police commissioner, for the policemen, and for the harsh words of Fr. Peyramale!
For the days in which you came, Mary; for the ones in which you did not come, I will never be able to thank you... only in Paradise. For the slap in the face, for the ridicule, the insults, and for those who suspected me for wanting to gain something from it, thank you, my Lady.
For my spelling, which I never learned, for the memory which I never had, for my ignorance and for my stupidity, thank you.
For the fact that my mother died so far away, for the pain I felt when my father instead of hugging his little Bernadette, called me "Sister Marie-Bernard", I thank you, Jesus.
I thank you for the heart you gave me, so delicate and sensitive, which you filled with bitterness.
For the fact that Mother Josephine proclaimed that I was good for nothing, thank You. For the sarcasm of the Mother Superior: her harsh voice, her injustices, her irony, and for the bread of humiliation, thank you.
Thank you, that I was the privileged one when it came to being reprimanded, so that my sisters said: "How lucky it is not to be Bernadette".
Thank you for the fact that it is me, who was the Bernadette threatened with imprisonment because she had seen you, Holy Virgin; regarded by people as a rare animal; that Bernadette so wretched, that upon seeing her it was said: "Is that it?"
For this miserable body which You gave me, for this burning and suffocating illness, for my decaying tissues, for my decalcified bones, for my sweats, for my fever, for my dull and for my acute pains, thank you my God.
And for this soul which You have given me, for the desert of inner dryness, for Your night and Your lightening, for Your silences and Your thunders, for everything. For You - when You were present and when you were not- thank you, Jesus."(according to Fonti vive, Caravate, Sept. 1960)
-Ellie
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Monday, February 26, 2007
Making Do on Monday: Spring Cleaning for the SoulWe mothers and wives have certainly gotten lots of practice at scrubbing and cleaning our homes. Have we ever really tried doing that within our SOULS? Each year lent comes around I find myself desiring to do this. But have ever really bowed deep down in humility before our Lord and asked Him to show us everything, to humble us, to reveal all that we really need to work on? Have we ever really and truly scrubbed and cleaned every nook and cranny of our souls? This means our whole mind, our whole heart. It's big! It takes a lot of guts to really, honestly, search for every trace of dirt and grime in every corner of of our beings. But what better time than Lent to do this?
Catherine Doherty speaks of lent being a time of "spring cleaning":
Deep inside us there is junk that has accumulated through the years. You have to go and cleanse your soul and heart of it all. Go into your heart and you'll see thousands of things: jealousy, envy-- a lot of things.
So, come Lent, you make a genuflection--not so much of your knees but of your soul-- and you say to yourself, well, here is where I cleanse. I cleanse my soul; here is where I spring-clean it; here is where I make it a place in which God can live.
Think of your soul as a room, a room that you are making ready for God. If you knew God was coming, you certainly would wash, clean and scrub...
One of the great ways to clean your soul is to be specific in your goals. It's easy to fail when we say things like "I'm going to try and be a better person." But each morning, wake up and say "When my husband comes home grouchy and gives me an unfair criticism, I'm going to bite back my harsh reply and be humble and silent like Christ was when unjustly accused." or " Today, I'm going to refrain from yelling at the children." or "When I see ___, whom I really don't care for, I'm going to go out of my way to be kind and thoughtful to this person." or "I am prone to impatience, I am going to slow down and breathe deeply when I feel tempted to get hurried and annoyed with the people." Making very specific attempts to weed out our imperfections, one by one, will produce a very comfortable soul in which the Lord can rest indeed!
~Sia, Vancouver, WA
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Friday, February 09, 2007
Friday Coffeehouse: An Artist's Blog Worth Noting
Below is an excerpt from her wooden toys post which I though very well-put, and hence, worth noting. It will hopefully give you a feel for what her *tone* is...
There are many reasons why folks choose to have simple toys or straight wooden toys, but...
"As one mother-writer (whose name I forget but who founded the Natural Baby Catalog) wonderfully reasoned: consider a sunny field of daisies. Picture a child playing in the field. The child and the field belong together -- they fit. What sort of toy fits into that picture next to the child? A Barbie Doll? Rainbow Brite? A plastic laser gun? A Bionicle? Introduce those toys and something jars. Those toys don't fit. Now picture a rag doll with the child -- a wooden truck -- those toys fit. They are natural, like the child. Intuition and instinct. That's why they give their children wooden toys.
Because it's all about beauty, for me. Even when they're lying in a dishevelved way on the floor like above, I like looking at wooden toys. Maybe that one writer was onto something when she said they were more natural. They don't jar the senses. They don't scream for attention. They "fit."
For homemakers (or should we call ourselves, "house artists?"), I think this is an important component of crafting a home. Beauty isn't just filigree, decoration, pictures and curtains and knicknacks we put around our home. It's also about the day-to-day essential components of our home. And it's about molding our children's sensibilities to appreciate beauty by surrounding them by what we ourselves find beautiful. We try to simplify. But we should also remember to beautify. "
I'll leave you on that note!
~Sia, Vancouver, WA
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Saturday, January 20, 2007
Catching His Smile~Sia, Vancouver, WA
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Monday, January 15, 2007
Making Do on Mondays: A liturgical sort of year
We mothers are always so pleased when the little ones learn their months and seasons... have we taught them about the spiritual phases of the year? One of the best ways I heard about doing this was to always adorn your table with a tablecloth coordinating with the current color we are in. So children will see a green tablecloth most of the year, but that phases out with purple and pink, white and red. I think putting on a red tablecloth on the feast of a martyr or on Passion Sunday, a big impact would be made in the minds of little ones. We have to remember that kids only absorb so many facts and words and dates. What really makes a big impression are visual or spatial activities to really hit home a point. Colors have the potential to make a big impact! Other things you could do include having particularly colored vases brought out during the appropriate time. Or if you are aghast at the idea of having many days of a green tablecloth... you might make or buy colored place settings or hang a wall tapestry up reflecting the current time of year we are in.www.catholicculture.org has this to say on the matter:
Annually, through the Proper of Seasons or Temporal Cycle, the Church immerses herself in the whole “mystery of Christ, from the incarnation and birth until the ascension, the day of Pentecost, and the expectation of blessed hope and of the coming of the Lord.” Further, in the Proper of Saints or Sanctoral Cycle, she honors with special love Mary, the Mother of God, and celebrates the feasts of martyrs and saints who are already in possession of eternal salvation.
But how are the faithful to draw life from the Eucharistic sacrifice as water from a limitless spring? How can they make their participation in the sacred liturgy bear fruit in their homes and daily lives?
Within the Catholic home – the domestic church – the faithful may make use of pious practices, objects and various traditions to join with the Church in living the liturgical year. By making use of customs, traditions, and devotional practices, parents, as first teachers of their children, will be building up the “little kingdom of heaven” that is their home. Ideally, this will culminate in the celebration of the liturgy, for every practice and custom that is not oriented towards the liturgy will be hollow and fail to produce worthy fruit.
-Ellie: Oak Harbor, WA
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Friday, January 12, 2007
Friday Coffeehouse: What is Good Conversation?
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Thursday, January 11, 2007
The Rules of Engagement
My husband's current pastime has been a bad influence on me. I noticed this when in a recent long argument we had I used a football analogy to explain it: "We are just too evenly matched... at this rate we'll just keep going into overtime."Last I heard the top three reasons for divorce had to do with disagreements over money, sex and childraising. I wholeheartedly encourage arguing with your spouse! It can be very healthy to unearth feelings and expectations and understandings that are operating under the surface of day-to-day life. I mean this in a way that takes into consideration the "rules" of arguing. I would add to the list I'm about to post that we must focus on not making mountains out of mole-hills... and to not go to sleep angry. Every couple married more than a couple months realizes that they need to pick their battles. However, it's also important not to let things accumulate until he casually mentions "Honey, my mashed potatoes are cold" and you blow up and throw the whole darn pot in his face. Constant communication is key as we all probably know. When work or family or outside commitments take time away from you as a couple, try very hard to take even just 20 minutes of catch-up time. Turn off the TV and boil some tea water and sit at the table and just talk.
A few years ago, I saw this list from Marty and Kristine Franklin about Fair Fighting. I was in a militant state of mind when I read it, so I reprinted it... signed it, asked my husband to do the same and posted it on the fridge. The list is long gone now but the effects are still present in our marriage... well, we shout and get sarcastic a bit more than we should sometimes, but things are much better now than the way they were in our rocky newlywed days. Especially useful for our purposes has been abiding by rules 9-11.
-Ellie
1.We are on the same side. We are a team. The goal is not for me to win. The goal is to solve the problem and to love you better.
2.Your feelings matter to me even if they are very different from mine. I will not judge your feelings. I will try to understand them and I will try to help you understand mine.
3.I will not shout, throw, or slam anything.
4.I will not be sarcastic, call you names, or swear.
5.I will never threaten or even hint at the possibility of divorce. We are in this together for life. If I need space to think, cool off, or pray, I'll ask for it and go to another room. I will not leave the house in anger.
6.I will not ascribe motives to your actions. I cannot read your mind and won't try.
7.I will keep quiet when you talk and listen to everything you say.
8.I will stick with this discussion for as long as it takes. If we can't finish right now, I will make a date in the very near future to pick it up again. I will not leave problems unresolved.
9.I will not give you the silent treatment. I will do my best to express my thoughts and feelings so you can understand. I will not clam up. I will not pout or manipulate through guilt.
10.I will ask for clarification when I don't understand you. I will not jump to conclusions.
11.I will not throw old sins in your face.
12.I will apologize quickly if I break any of the above rules and I will try to do better as we go along.
13. I will admit when I am wrong. I will say I'm sorry. I will ask for your forgiveness.
14.If the children overhear us I will apologize to each of them and explain that married people argue even when they love each other very much. I will assure them that I love you and that our family is not in any danger whatsoever. I will never make you out to be the bad guy.
15.If we can't solve a problem on our own in a reasonable amount of time, I will agree to outside help.
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Thursday, December 21, 2006
Some gems from Fulton Sheen
I love that bishop.Was watching one of his old videos in which he shared two profound thoughts on motherhood.
We are in a sense like Christ... think of His words at the Last Supper and apply them to an expectant mother who might say the same thing to her child: "Take and eat, this is my body... this is my blood."
Also, regarding the responsibility to raise our children with a strong sense of morals and spirituality he said: "Whenever a child is conceived, a crown is made in Heaven. Woe to the woman if that crown is forever empty."
-Ellie in WA
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Thursday, December 14, 2006
Motherhood and the story of Bethlehem
As I contemplate Advent and Christmas time, being a mother provides a whole new realm of thought for me. The story of the nativity is made more real now. It is more real to imagine Mary and Joseph travelling together: she on a donkey, going from inn to inn looking for a place to deliver. It is more real to imagine Christ as an infant. It is more real to imagine these practical aspects of the whole story of Bethlehem. But further, It is a new spiritual journey for me. Being a mother shapes my thinking in a whole new way. As I enter into the spiritual journey of Advent, preparing for the coming of the infant Jesus, I can apply this thinking in an entirely direct way. Caryll Houselander epitomizes this new realm of thought in her book titled, Wood of the Cradle, Wood of the Cross. Here are some of the beautiful passages from it below. To read the whole of the source, go to ewtn's library by clicking here."...The first giving of this love to a newly born child is the reshaping of our whole life, in its large essentials and in its every detail, in our environment, our habits, ourselves...
The sound of our voice must be modulated - the words that we use considered, our movements restrained, slowed down, and trained to be both decisive and gentle.
...Our rooms must be rearranged; everything that is superfluous and of no use to the infant must be thrown out; only what is simple and necessary to him must remain, and what remains must be placed in the best position, not for us, but for him...
We must learn to sleep lightly, aware of the moonlight and the stars, conscious even in our deepest sleep of a whimper from the infant and ready to respond to it. We must learn the saving habit of rising with, or a little before, dawn.
...The rhythm of our own bodies must be brought into harmony with his. They must become part of the ordered procession of his day and night, his waking and feeding and sleeping. Our lives, because of his and like his, must include periods of silence and rest. We must return with him and through him to the lost rhythm of the stars and the seed.
...All our senses must be given to him, and we must give him our hands. We must give him our hands, tending his needs and washing his clothes."
~Sia writes from Ohio
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Saturday, December 09, 2006
Advent: Words from Catherine DohertyAdvent is a time when we are called to a renewal inside: an opening of our hearts as we prepare for the birth of Christ. It is a time when we can prepare the "cradles" of our hearts for our Beloved who comes to us on Christmas Eve when, in that sacred moment, to the world's eyes, The Word was made Flesh and dwelt among us.
Catherine Doherty of Madonna House helped me to go deeper into the spiritual aspect of Advent through her book titled Donkey Bells. She brought alive the Advent season in a spiritually enriching way. Below are some passages to share with those of you who are not familiar with her writings or with this book.
"Advent is a short season, yet it covers a long distance. It is the road of a soul from Nazareth to Bethlehem..." she writes. "...In truth, Advent is the road of the spiritual life which all of us must start if we do not want to miss the way...
We must start with a 'fiat' that re-echoes Mary's fiat ('Let it be done, O Lord') . It is a fiat that each of us should say in the quiet of our hearts."
"But let us understand that this 'Bethlehem' we seek is within our own souls, our own hearts, our own minds. Advent is a time of standing still, and yet making a pilgrimage. It is an inner pilgrimage, a pilgrimage in which we don't use our feet. We stand still; yet, in a manner of speaking, we walk a thousand miles across the world - just because we chose to stand still."
--It is a "journey of the spirit, which is a thousand times harder than a journey of the feet. Let us 'arise and go'."

She speaks of Advent in Russia... it was all about cleansing from the inside out: "...My mother used to say that the days of Advent were the days of building a golden stairway that would lead us to a star, the star of Bethlehem. And this, in turn, would lead us straight to the Christ Child."
~"It is a time for renewal; it is especially a time for forgiveness because God brings His forgiveness to us in the shape of His Son. The Church year begins with the first Sunday of Advent. And very time it comes around, my heart thrills anew."
Catherine Doherty also mentions the bells as being the reminder of our coming Love:
~"I pray that your hearts and souls and ears will hear very clearly the bells of the donkey, not only in Advent but throughout the year. I wish to give you the sound of a donkey's bells so that you might hear it all your life, for then you shall also ride with the holy one and hear the first church bells, which were the donkey's bells when he was carrying Our Lady and Our Lord."
~"To me, the bells of this season, whenever they ring, either for Mass or for the Angelus, always have the joyous sound of wedding bells. For Advent is 'the springtime of love', when the soul awaits her Lover, knowing deep down that He is coming and that He will make her His own!"
To read more exerpts from Donkey Bells, click here. Donkey Bells is available for purchase through Madonna House Publications.
~Sia, Vancouver, WA
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Saturday, November 11, 2006
FamilyTo revise an old quote:
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Thursday, September 14, 2006
A Reflection on Mass
If you are like me, you get easily distracted at Mass... the kid behind you smells like last week's diaper pail, the man in front of you has a very noticeable hairpiece that keeps slipping, the teenager next to you is wearing clothes you'd see at a beach, your own child keeps tugging on you and whining, the priest's eyelids keep drooping during the readings... etc. There's a lot going on it seems and it can be really hard to place yourself in the mindset that we are at a Heavenly Banquet, about to encounter the Master of the Universe in the most intimate way possible. What can be done? Well, you can't control your external circumstances very much so it's important to try to get to Mass a bit early so you get a chance to pray and prepare yourself for the Sacred Mysteries about to take place. Apart from this, the only consolation we really get is the knowledge (but not necessarily the feeling) that we are receiving immense graces just by being there and receiving our Lord.Anyway, in a recent talk I heard, Dr. Scott Hahn was referring to all this and how it shouldn't surprise us. Christ is hidden in such an ordinary little wafer. If His glory was revealed for all to see, we first of all wouldn't be able to handle it... secondly, the whole world would be Catholic because there would be no room for faith to have its home.
All the distractions at Mass are part of the ordinary human experience. It is this EXACT SAME ordinary human experience that was present when Jesus Christ walked the earth! People didn't look at Him and think "Wow, He looks like He might be God." He walked the noisy, distracted streets of Jerusalem and ate with the ordinary people with babies crying in the background to be sure. God is the fullness of human experience.
This is why it's so wonderful to be Catholic! We don't have to rely on our "feelings" in order to receive sanctifying (or sacramental) grace. It's there whether we recognize it or not. The angels in Heaven are worshipping the Eucharistic Lord there in Mass even if the priest's sermon was boring and the music off-key. What consolation!!! That we experience our God in the same way people 2000 years ago experienced Him when He was right in front of their faces... in the context of our fallen, distracted, noisy humanity.
Well, it helped me to hear this anyway!
-Ellie: Oak Harbor, WA
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Saturday, September 02, 2006
Saturday Funnies
I thought I'd share the following silliness which got me laughing when I first read it. It was off the internet originally, given to me years back... Perhaps some of your children of a certain age can enjoy the ironies with you.EVER WONDER...
...why the sun lightens our hair, but darkens our skin?
...why womencan't put on mascara with their eyes closed?
...why you don't ever see the headline, "Psychic Wins Lottery"?
...why "abbreviated" is such a long word?
...why doctors call what they do a "practice"?
...why the man who invests all yopur money is called a "broker"?
...who tastes dog food when it has a "new and improved flavor"?
...why sheep don't shrink when it rains?
...why they are called apartments when they are all stuck together?
...if con is the opposite of pro, in Congress the opposite of progress?
...why they call the airport the "terminal" if flying is so safe?
ENGLISH IS A CRAZY LANGUAGE!
Face it: English is a crazy language. There is no egg in eggplant or ham in hamburger. Neither apple nor pine in pineapple. English muffins were not invented in England nor French Fries in France. Sweetmeats are candies, while sweetbreads, which aren't sweet, are meat!
We take English for granted. But if we explore it's paradoxes, we find that quicksand can work slowly, boxing rings are square, and a guinea pig is neither from Guinea nor is it a pig. -And why is it that writers write, but fingers don't fing, grocers don't groce, and hammers don't ham? If the plural of tooth is teeth, why isn't the plural of both beeth?
1 goose, 2 geese. So 1 moose, 2 meese? 1 index, 2 indices? Is cheese the plural of choose? If teachers taught, why didn't preachers praught? If a vegetarian eats vegetables, what does a humanitarian eat??
In what language do people recite at a play, and play at a recital? Ship by truck and send cargo by ship? Have noses that run and feet that smell? Park on driveways and drive on parkways?
How can a slim chance and a fat chance be the same, while a wise man and a wise guy are opposites?How can the weather be hot as hell one day and cold as hell another?
When a house burns up, it burns down. You fill in a form by filling it out... and alarm clock goes off by going on! When the stars are out, they are visible, but when the lights are out, they are invisible. And why, when I wind up my watch, I start it, but when I wind up this essay, I end it?
Now I know why I flunked my English. It's not my fault the silly language doesn't know whether it's coming or going.
~Sia
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Thursday, August 31, 2006
Encouragement in Scripture for The Childbearing YearThis icon is The Mother of God of Tenderness, written by Dan Nichols of Eighth Day icons. We also have a link to his site under our "fine art recommendations" which is on the "religious supplies" page in the sidebar with the other links. I find this icon to be especially comforting during any anxious or hard times.
Psalm 127:3-5~ Behold, children are a gift of the Lord; The fruit of the womb is a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior, so are the children of one's youth. How blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them; They shall not be ashamed when they speak with their enemies at the gate.
Psalm 128:1, 3-4~ How blessed is everyone who fears the Lord. Your wife shall be like a fruitful vine within your house, your children l;ike olive plants around your table. Behold, for thus shall the man be blessed who fears the Lord.
Genesis 18:14~ Is anything too difficult for the Lord? (concerning Sarah)
Mark 10:28~ With men it is impossible, but not with God; for all things are possible with God!
Psalm 34:4~ I sought the Lord, and He answered me, and delivered me from all of my fears.
Psalm 46:1-2~ God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble. Therefore we will not fear.
Psalm 56:3-4~ When I am afraid, I will put my trust in Thee. In God, whose word I praise, in God I have put my trust; I shall not be afraid.
Some mothers who's births I have been to have found it particularly helpful, during labor, to have the the Litany of Mary or of Jesus prayed with or read to them. My husband and I prayed the rosary together during the earlier stages of labor when I was in a more contemplative state, before I had to concentrate too much on each contraction. During those harder stages some women prefer to labor in silence, without noise or anyone talking to them. However, some women really love to hear the sound of the beautiful litanies of our Church. ~Just some thoughts for those of you who will be having your babies soon!
~Sia in Vancouver, WA
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Tuesday, August 22, 2006
A warning from Mr. Pio
Hi y'all I'm online for a sec and I thought I'd share a story my mom told me. She heard it from a talk by Fr. Corapi- a great priest who before his conversion was living the LA drugs sex and rock and roll life, now tours the country sharing about his life and giving talks at major conferences.So the story goes like this...
Saint Padre Pio was hearing confession and a woman walked in to his confessional. He right away started yelling at her, saying "You are a criminal! Get out of here you criminal! Leave right now, you are a criminal!" The woman left in tears and understandably was very upset. After pulling herself together she mustered up the courage to go face Padre Pio saying "You can't treat me like that! I am not a criminal, what are you talking about?" And Padre Pio answered "Yes you are... three of your children are burning in hell as we speak because you were too permissive."
Something to think about... the gravity our position as mothers and how the devil is after our children. We must always be on guard!
Hope writes from Southern Cal
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Friday, June 23, 2006
Friday Coffeehouse: Thoughts on TEA
Hello-- After experiencing some very frustrating technical difficulties today, I am finally able to publish this little post. Those of you who have already read some of it when it was up for an hour today, please re-read it, as before there were 2 paragraphs missing...
These "Coffeehouse Posts" are going to encompass a lot. Today I'd like to share some thoughts and philosophies on TEA.
I read a long time ago and am now re-reading The Book of Tea, by Okakura Kakuzo. I would not recommend this as a spiritual reading, though many non-Christians would categorize it as such. It is to me a lesson in aesthetics and beauty, and a lesson on Japan's culture. (I personally, as a potter, study it so as to better understand the history of Japanese tea bowls, which is a form I make a lot of in the studio.)
In my last coffeehouse post I spoke of the importance of establishing a tea time, a time to be still and rest amidst the business of our days. I think that the Japanese were on to something in this realm as well:
"...Teaism is a cult founded on the adoration of the beautiful among the sordid facts of everyday existence." Okakura writes. He goes on to write about the philosophy of Tea:
"It is hygiene, for it enforces cleanliness; it is economics, for it shows comfort in simplicity rather than in the complex and costly; it is moral geometry, inasmuch as it defines our sense of proportion to the universe..."
When I make tea, I am very picky about every step. A friend once said, referring to my family, "Oh, yes, the Hoyts! They boil the water about 10 times before they actually pour it!" -She was exaggerating, yet this is a very important aspect of making tea and can't be ignored. The water must come to a rolling boil, then sit for a few seconds, then be poured directly onto the teabag or through the tea leaves. If you go to a restaurant nowadays they will bring you a cup of "hot" water (I'd be surprised if it was even 160 degrees!) with a teabag on the side. By the time the hot water is brought to the table it's lukewarm. -The result is a very weak not-so-tasty cup of tea. No wonder folks in this country generally prefer coffee to tea. Many folks here think that tea is a pretty bland drink. When I lived in Scotland, they surely knew how to make tea. They would pour boiling water into a pot which contained the tea bags, then bring the piping hot strong tea to the table with a side of milk in a pitcher. You may think I am a tea and coffee freak, very particular about every aspect of the processes. This may be so! I am quite the snob when it comes to such things. But there's much more to the art of making tea than the basics I speak of. The Japanese have their own beautiful, proper ways of making what is to them a very sacred drink, and I feel like a total novice in the realm of tea when I read Okakura's words on this subject. He speaks very eloquently of the art of making tea. He is an artist with words:
"...the mountain spring is the best, the river water and the spring water come next in the order of excellence. There are three stages of boiling: the first boil is when the little bubbles like the eye of fishes swim on the surface; the second boil is when the bubbles are like crystal beads rolling in a fountain; the third boil is when the billows surge wildly in the kettle. The Cake-tea is roasted before the fire until it becomes soft like a baby's arm and is shredded into powder between pieces of fine paper. Salt is put in the first boil, the tea in the second. At the third boil, a dipperful of cold water is poured into the kettle to settle the tea and revive the 'youth of the water.' Then the beverage was poured into cups and drunk. O nectar! The filmy leaflet hung like scaly clouds in a serene sky or floated like waterlilies on emerald streams..."
I'll leave you on that note. I could go on forever... Happy tea-time!
~Sia writes from Vancouver, WA
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Saturday, June 17, 2006
Taking the Little Road
"Life goes on it's way. Factually, it's a really nitty-gritty affair-repetitious and monotonous. Say you care for children: you change diapers, dress babies, put them to bed, feed them and entertain them as best you can, day after day. It gets monotonous, doesn't it? Even the President finds, in peacetime, a certain monotony to his job:sign papers, meet with Congress, be here at this time, be there at that time. From manual labor to the presidency, monotony can be the path to doubts.
When we are young, we dream dreams; we're going to change the world-do this or that. But the years go by and we become bookkeepers or salesclerks. Our jobs are monotonous and we're assailed by all kinds of thoughts. Yes, the nitty-gritty
daily life is the widest road to doubts.
God has given us a small path to follow Him, not a wide road. But we take that wide road! Yet if we get off it, and take the small path, we will know that this little path is holy. Now we will catch the smile of a child in both hands and hug it to our heart. The nitty-gritty days full of doubts will vanish and we will walk barefoot down the little path as pilgrims do. Flowers and trees will grow alongside it and we shall understand this is the path God made, and there is nothing nitty-gritty about it! Everything will be exciting, because we are in love with God. And to be in love with God is the most exciting thing in the world."
-Catherine Doherty, from Doubts, Loneliness and RejectionYou can view Catherine's books at Madonna House Publications.
-Sia
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